Fathers who figure
Can you learn to be a Dad? Yes, says Melvyn Davis whose project is helping men from all walks of life to become better fathers.
Melvyn Davis is proud to be a father and wants others to feel the same. He says a father who is active in a child's life benefits the child, the mother and also himself.
However, for some men there is no advice, support or training to help them with such a difficult role. Melvyn's project, Brent Dads, can provide the help and training fathers might need.
"Within society we have to pass a test to drive a car or gain a qualification for a job, but when it comes to being a father or parent we don't. Being a father is probably the most important role in life many men will ever undertake.
"Some fathers are not involved in their children's lives, and there are men who feel excluded from their lives. Brent Dads is about changing and challenging a culture of men who are not active fathers. Often it is because their fathers were not involved in their lives.That culture occurs across all classes, races and religions," he says.
Brent Dads was set up in 2007 by Melvyn, who was already running The Male Development Service, and is open to all men responsible for raising children no matter if they are married, divorced or in a new relationship. It offers training, advice, and one-to-one support.The project runs a special group for young fathers, an advice line, and even day trips for dads and kids. Brent Dads trains father workers to work with men, offers mentors, and runs outreach projects in nurseries, schools and community. It also helps to run special stay and play sessions for dads and their children on Saturday mornings.
"It is about breaking taboos and getting men out of their comfort zone.The more information we can give to empower them the better. For instance, there are some things which research shows men are better at, such as putting babies to sleep. By learning these skills men can gain in confidence in being better fathers to children.
"Brent Dads is not about favouring fathers or mothers, but being pro-children. If both parents are around and a father actively involved in a child's life you have two players in the team, not just one. That is better for all: father, mother and child."
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